Transforming Past Hurts Into
Strength & Insight
Lexis Linklater, M.Ed., RCC
Registered Clinical Counsellor
What is Counselling Like?
Counselling is a process.
Counselling is a place to find safety and respect. To feel heard and understood. To learn new skills and ways to care for yourself. To become aware of and to understand your own thinking and feelings.
Counselling is a journey that you determine and go at a safe and comfortable pace that works for you. Counselling can help you to overcome the blocks which prevent your heart and mind from healing.
When we suffer from mental and emotional pain it seems to dominate our day-to-day lives, affecting our work, sleep, pleasure, relationships and how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. We may feel we are burdening those around us unable to free ourselves from it and it seems impossible to free ourselves from it. However through evidence-based therapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Solution-Focused Counselling, and Mindfulness practice, we are able to make change more rapidly than we anticipated. Therapeutic methods to help you find relief and learn ways to obtain emotional and mental well-being.
There are many reasons why people become trapped in the cycle of addictions. Whether you use in order to cope with emotional and mental stress and pain, or it has become a learned social behaviour, addictions make our lives unmanageable and affect our relationships with those who love us. It can feel hopeless. Coming from a harm reduction or abstinence-based approach, I provide non-judgmental, addictions counselling which addresses core issues to support you on your healing journey as you shift away from substance abuse towards healthier ways of living.
When we suffer from trauma or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), it will affect every aspect of our lives. You may be suffering from many of the following symptoms: feeling anxious and unsafe, feeling numb or depressed, bothered by flashbacks or distressing memories, difficulty having relationships, having a lack of trust, and self-harming or addictive behaviours. Using somatic therapy, I carefully help you to process traumatic material at a relaxed pace allowing you to gradually feel safe, calm, and whole within your body and in your life. I am registered with the Crime Victim Assistance Program for those who qualify. CVAP funding.
Whether you are in a current relationship where communication is failing or you have already lost someone through family disintegration, separation, divorce, or death, you may be feeling angry, confused, anguished, or unable to cope with your overwhelming grief. Maybe you find it challenging to have healthy relationships because of abuse from your past or upbringing, or maybe you are currently stuck in an unhealthy relationship that you have difficulty leaving. I will help you to understand the relationships of your life and how to find your strengths through therapy to move forward. See also Somatic Therapy for attachment issues. Somatic Therapy for Attachment Trauma.
Indigenous people have suffered worldwide due to colonization. Especially in Canada, the First Nations, Inuit, and Metis people have suffered several hundred years of intergenerational trauma. In addition, the genocidal Indian Residential Schools, the 60’s scoop, discrimination and racism, the on-going inadequately funded child welfare services, health care services, education resources, and housing have continued to wound these once rich and vibrant cultures now plagued with poverty, violence, addictions, high suicide rates, and lateral violence as a result of this horrific history. Coming from a deep understanding of the impacts of intergenerational trauma, I have been specially trained to work with Indigenous peoples and provide trauma informed, culturally relevant counselling. I am registered with the First Nations Health Authority (FNHA). First Nations Health Authority Counselling benefits.
Somatic therapy is highly effective at working with people who are suffering with trauma and/or attachment issues. If you have found “talk therapy” to not be effective at helping alleviate emotional pain that you may feel in your body; you have emotional dysregulation which may present itself in having intense emotions; you feel shut down and disconnected from yourself and others, Somatic therapy can be an effective “right brain” therapy which allows your mind and body to process traumatic material and achieve inner balance. Note: This therapy does not involve touch and is not a type of bodywork. About Somatic Therapy.